Divorce Mediation in Monmouth County
What is divorce mediation?
In divorce mediation, usually three attorneys are hired: one for you, one
for your spouse, and a third attorney to serve as the divorce mediator.
I can assist you in one of two different potential capacities if you are
intending to pursue divorce mediation as opposed to a more traditional divorce.
First, I can serve as the mediator, in which case I would not represent
either you or your spouse but instead would serve as a neutral guide to
assist the two of you in resolving issues of child support, alimony, custody,
property distribution, and all of the other issues that will be involved
in your particular case.
Or, in the alternative, I could serve as your “review attorney”.
Your “review attorney” is the person who you rely upon for
legal advice. This can either be at the mediation itself if you choose
to bring lawyers with you or before or after the mediation session.
I completed general mediation training in 1982 through the Metropolitan
Assistance Corporation, Victim Services Agency/Travelers’ Aid Services
in Brooklyn, New York while I was attending law school and was awarded
a “Mediator’s Certification Award” in 1982. As such,
I am one of the more experienced divorce mediators in Central NJ, having
been mediating divorce cases for over 30 years.
Divorce mediation stands in stark contrast to the more traditional types
of divorce action. In the traditional divorce action, each spouse normally
retains his or her own attorney. The job of the attorney for each spouse
is to negotiate the best deal on all issues for his or her client that
is possible. The traditional system analogizes to having two gladiators
fighting vigorously to the best of their abilities for their respective clients.
Somewhere along the line, our judicial system came up with the idea that
the clash of these legal titans is the best way for the truth to emerge
and for the fairest settlement to develop. However, the truth is that
experience has taught those of us in the system differently. Most serious
practitioners of matrimonial law now recognize the limitations that the
traditional judicial system has to offer divorcing spouses.
These limitations include, but are not limited to the fact that judges
have overburdened calendars, thus often resulting in lengthy delays; the
fact that some judges are more well-versed in family law issues when they
first become judges than others are, and thus some judges make decisions
that are or seem fairer than other judges; and a whole host of other factors.
My Monmouth County Divorce Firm Offers Divorce Mediation Services
In my practice, I meet with both the husband and the wife usually once
a week for one hour. In my experience, most people who begin mediation
are able to successfully complete it. I have found that mediation results
in divorces in which the parents are much more effective in co-parenting
their children after the divorce. Instead of beating each other up through
the court system, they meet with me and work out their differences. After
the divorce, they often seek mediation if other issues should develop
that they can’t resolve on their own as opposed to going back to
court for more “matrimonial warfare.”
Divorce Mediation Is Not For Everyone
Mediation is certainly not for all couples. Cases involving high conflict,
spousal abuse, or child abuse may not be appropriate for mediation. However,
it has been my experience that more and more couples are looking for an
amicable divorce. More clients are calling my office and saying, “I
want to be fair with my spouse and my spouse wants to be fair with me.”
It is these people that divorce mediation holds the most promise for.
Hire Attorney Steven J. Kaplan to act as your divorce mediator
I am involved with a significant number of mediated divorces, and I would
be happy to discuss divorce mediation with you. Please feel free to call
(732) 845-9010 or
send me an email to discuss this option.