...and those issues are making my marriage unbearable for me."
That's what most people who consult with me tell me, in one way or another.
Some people say that they think that their spouse may have "bi-polar disorder," as evidenced by extreme mood swings.
Others tell me confidently that they are convinced that their spouse suffers from narcissistic personality disorder, which they feel might explain their spouse's extreme overspending and self-indulgence.
A majority of the people who consult with me confide in me that their spouse has turned to excessive drinking or the use of drugs.
It is not uncommon at all for a client to tell me that her spouse routinely lies to her (or him.)
And...I'm frequently told that a client's spouse is a "control freak" who tells my client what to do, wear, say, and where my client can and cannot go, and with who.
The fighting between the two spouses begins, and then gets worse. Frequently, much worse.
Often, there's an affair.
Now, the two spouses are sleeping in separate bedrooms and there is limited (and sometimes virtually no) communication between them.
They usually try marriage counseling, but for some reason (at least for the people who ultimately reach out to me,) it didn't help. Frequently, my client tells me that the other spouse just sat there and blamed my client for everything that was wrong with their marriage, while accepting no responsibility.
Most of my clients tell me that ultimately they realized that he or she cannot fix their marriage alone, and that their spouse does not seem to have any interest in trying to work things out.
And so they come to consult with me about a divorce.
Whatever your journey with your spouse has been, my guess is that you are at this website because you have reached a breaking point. Something has to change.
Perhaps you know that a divorce may be coming, and you have some serious concerns.
You might be seeking direction. "What are my options?"
"What should my next step be?"
You may be feeling a need to find out how to best protect your kids and your assets, and you need to be sure that you'll have enough money if you do actually divorce.
I'm sure that you don't want to fight; you just want to be fair.
But your spouse is angry at you.
And you're not so sure how fair your spouse will be to you.
You likely fear that you may be taken advantage of if you are not very careful.
You are concerned about what the future holds for you. There is uncertainty, and the uncertainty is making you fearful.
Thoughts of being alone again, of returning to the dating scene, and of being a single parent are adding to your already over-burdened mind.
My guess is that it has become hard for you to sleep.
You are likely tired...
I understand the many stressors that people who are facing the possibility of a divorce often confront.
Every day for the past 32 years I have worked with divorcing people in New Jersey who had concerns like yours. Ultimately, most of them were able to successfully address those issues.
There are two things that have been crucial to helping me assist thousands of New Jersey divorce clients over the years. First, I am highly trained and highly experienced as a divorce specialist.
And second is that through the past 32 years of living with my wife (who was married and divorced once before) and step-children, I have personally experienced much of what divorcing and divorced families go through. (CLICK HERE TO READ "MY STORY")
WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW TO START MANAGING YOUR DIVORCE-RELATED ISSUES
You're probably anxious to get answers to some important questions.
What's the best way to begin doing that right now?
The answer is to get a good, solid "divorce education."
What is a "divorce education"?
It is specialized knowledge about divorce in New Jersey.
Knowledge that you most likely do not have nearly enough of just yet.
The old saying, "Knowledge Is Power" certainly is true when it comes to divorce.
The more that you learn about how child custody works, how assets are divided, and how alimony and child support are determined, the sooner your anxiety will start to disappear.
To take your focus off of your fears and instead put it on learning how to successfully handle your divorce, CLICK HERE to begin getting your questions answered RIGHT NOW by beginning to study my "NJ Divorce Course."
This online educational course contains short articles about any divorce-related topic that interests you.
The course contains 85 of my articles organized into 14 online lessons that you can review in any order that you wish.
The knowledge that these easy-to-read articles will give you is the best way that I have discovered for divorcing people to learn how to conquer their divorce-related fears.
If you'd like to meet with me personally, call me at (732) 845-9010 or SEND ME AN EMAIL BY CLICKING HERE. We'll get you in quickly for your "Divorce Strategy Session."
When we meet, we will carefully go over the facts of YOUR case, your particular concerns, and we will discuss the most productive ways to satisfactorily resolve those issues.
I designed this website to offer help to anyone who is willing to take the time to read the articles and learn from them.
Take advantage of this resource...spend some time going through these articles.
I promise that they will help you.
PS: In addition to my NJ Divorce Course, I offer a second way to help you learn what you need to know about divorcing successfully in New Jersey.
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And your divorce-driven anxiety should start to decrease each day as you learn what you need to know to get through this tough time.
Ready to move forward?