and I just found out that she is sleeping with my best friend. 

I want a divorce!"

That's the first thing that "Robert" told me.

Robert's a good guy who has gone through hell.

Understandably, he was a bit of a mess when we first met.

But he's turned it all around and made a great life for himself and his kids.

I'll show you how he did it, and I'll give you ideas for how you can get a fair settlement, too.



Robert and Nicole live in New Jersey with their three kids.

The accounting firm he works for has an office nearby where he could work, but he makes far more money in the city, and living in New Jersey is expensive.

It's a long day, but it allows him to provide his family with a 6-figure income.

Nicole stopped working when they had their first child 15 years ago, and she's been a homemaker ever since.

He said that Nicole can be self-absorbed, a "know-it-all", controlling, and demanding.

“She's pretty narcissistic" he told me.

A week before he first spoke with me he put a tracking device on Nicoles's car "....just to make sure that she wasn't cheating."


That day at 12:42 PM, Robert's life changed forever.

The tracking device notified his iPhone that Nicole's car was in his best friend Alan's garage.

"What the hell is she doing there?" he thought.

Then, rage.

He quickly got himself a shot of Jack Daniels from his desk drawer.

"Hi Honey!" he said into his phone, his heart pounding out of his chest, feeling the drenching sweat rolling down his hand. "What are you doing?"

"Why do YOU care?" she said. You're a workaholic! All YOU do is work, while every day I have to get 
the kids off to school and clean the house. I can't wait to get out of here, but you never help, and I've just been too busy today!”

Then a long, uncomfortable silence.

They both knew.

He called Alan. The phone rang 8 times. Then voicemail.


He stormed into the house two hours early.

"I'm outta here!" he blurted out as he moved past Nicole to the master bedroom to grab some personal things.

"You stink like Jack Daniels again! I knew that you went back to drinking. 
And if you weren't working all the time, you would have noticed how unhappy I've been!" she screamed at him.

"I want a divorce, you devious, cheating narcissist!" he yelled back at her.

"YOU want a divorce? I'll give you a divorce that you'll never forget, you obsessive-compulsive workaholic!"

"So now I'm both a workaholic AND an alcoholic? I bust my ass to give you everything that you've ever asked for, and you're screwing that sleazy bum Alan?

You won't get a damn nickel from me, and I'll take custody of the kids from you!" he screamed at her.

"YOU caused this" Nicole replied. "It's not my fault.

You can forget about seeing your kids! They can't stand you because you're never here! I'm gonna go for the jugular and take you for everything that you've got!...

...and by the way...following me with a tracking device is illegal stalking in New Jersey, genius. I'm gonna ask the Judge to put your ass in jail, you creepy stalker!" she yelled with a smile.

Robert looked at me with a tired, dazed look.

"What a narcissistic nut job.

How the hell did I ever marry that wacko?"


"I won't pay a dime of alimony!" he sobbed after a minute or so.

"And that cheating bitch isn't getting any of my 401(k), my IRA, my pension, or any of my stocks.

She deserves nothing from me. Let that jackass support her."

In addition, Robert said that he wants to ask the Judge for sole custody. He said that Nicole is an unfit mother, and that the kids would rather live with him anyway.

He also said that he wants a full psychological report done on her " prove that she is a narcissist."


At times, through his rage, Robert realized that he was speaking and acting irrationally, but he was having trouble being calm.

The next morning on the ferry to Manhattan, a commuter friend recommended my NJ DIVORCE EDGE 2023 course to him.

Robert subscribed from his iPhone and his first email arrived right away.

He read it on the ferry on his way to work.

He told me that the first email was so useful to him that each day thereafter he looked forward to receiving his email from me.

Robert told me that these daily emails answered a lot of his questions and gave him a lot of emotional comfort.

Ultimately, Robert hired me to represent him in his divorce case.

I helped him understand the law, and in particular, the way that our divorce court judges in New Jersey tend to apply the law to situations like his.

Together, we explored a series of realistic settlement possibilities.

I also recommended several therapists and financial experts to him.

Robert hired a therapist who helped him deal with his feelings of betrayal, got him to slow down and think about what his goals are, and helped him to focus on what type of custody arrangement is in the best interest of his children.

He also hired a financial advisor, who helped him get a better grasp on his finances to support his divorce case's financial theory.

He and Nicole attended a special custody mediation program at the Court House.

We exchanged multiple settlement proposals with Nicole's lawyer, and Robert and Nicole, with their attorneys present, participated in mediation of the economic issues.


Ultimately, Robert settled the case in a way that meets his needs and the needs of his children.

Nicole was not able to "take him for all that he's got." Not even close.

It was a fair deal.

There was no need for an expensive, drawn-out contested trial.

Issues of custody and money that at first seemed impossible to resolve were worked out fairly.

Ultimately, Robert and Nicole had a simple uncontested divorce hearing at the County Court House.

He then began to heal.


Robert called me to say "hello" recently.

He sounded like a new man.

He told me that working with a therapist has taught him how to manage the rage that at one time had consumed him.

He said that his relationship with his children has never been better, and that he was surprised to find that he is not lonely but rather that he's enjoying his freedom.

He's dating.

He's able to afford to do what's important to him.

"Life is good!" he told me.




If you are considering divorce, the most important thing for you to do is to learn how to protect yourself, your children, and your assets.

You just read undefinedhow Robert did it, and I'll show you how you can do it, too.

I've been a divorce specialist in New Jersey for 35 years, and I've successfully represented thousands of people during the toughest time of their lives.

I "get it" and I'm here to help.

My free NJ DIVORCE EDGE 2023 course will teach you how to turn your situation around to your advantage, just like Robert did.

Until next time,

Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.

Specializing In Divorce
Throughout New Jersey

5 Professional Circle
Colts Neck, NJ. 07722
(732) 845-9010