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A solution is within reach—you just need the right steps to get there.

Imagine walking a tightrope, carefully balancing each move.

Divorce can feel the same way—uncertain, overwhelming, and full of risks.

But with the right knowledge, you can take control and step forward with confidence.

That’s why I created this collection of straightforward, practical answers to your biggest divorce questions.

✅ Understand the NJ divorce process so you know what’s coming.

✅ Discover your best options to protect your future.

✅ Reduce stress and uncertainty with clear, expert guidance.

Read these articles in any order.

Or start with Steve Kaplan's Step-By-Step Guide To Divorce In New Jersey for a solid foundation.

No confusion.

No fluff.

Just real answers to help you move forward—right now.

Let’s get started.

Steve

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SECTION #1: GETTING STARTED

1. Steve Kaplan’s Step-By-Step Guide To Divorce In New Jersey

2. Are You Divorcing A Narcissist? 
3. 10 Ways Your Narcissistic Spouse Will Make This Harder
4. How Long Will It Take You to Get Divorced?
5. 10 Good First Questions To Ask A Divorce Attorney
6. 5 Qualities You Should Seek In Your  Divorce Lawyer
7. Do You Want A Divorce Lawyer That Represents Only Your Sex?
8. Why You Should Not Hire A NJ Divorce Lawyer Who Represents Only One Gender
9. Your Divorce Attorney Should Help You Define Your Goals
10. Why It's A Terrible Idea To Divorce Without A Very Good Lawyer
11. 8 Things That You Should Know About Separation in New Jersey
12. In NJ, What Is Better For You: A Legal Separation Or A Divorce?
     

SECTION #2: COUNSELING

1. Your New Jersey Divorce & Therapy: Perfect Together
2. My Take on Jerry Seinfeld's Description of How People Break Up, and Marriage Counseling
3. Counseling Can Benefit Senior Citizens Involved in the Divorce Process

SECTION #3: BEGINNING THE DIVORCE PROCESS

1. What About Separation in NJ Without Divorce?
2. NJ Grounds for Divorce
3. Why The NJ Grounds for Divorce Don't Really Matter
4. Irreconcilable Differences
5. What It Means To Serve Divorce Papers in NJ

SECTION #4: HOW TO GET TEMPORARY RELIEF FROM A JUDGE

1. What Does "Pendente Lite" Mean in New Jersey Divorce Court?
2. NJ Divorce Court Motions
3. Can Your NJ Divorce Lawyer Help You In An Emergency?

SECTION #5: TRYING TO WORK OUT A FAIR SETTLEMENT

1. Don't Divorce Like This
2. Going Through A  Divorce in New Jersey?
3. The Importance Of Your NJ Divorce Case Information Statement (CIS)
4. Your Divorce Case Information Statement: The Backbone of Your Case
5. Getting Help from a Judge AFTER Your Divorce Is Over
6. Divorce Mediation Basics
7. Divorce Mediation and Arbitration in New Jersey
8. The Early Settlement Panel
9. What If Your Early Settlement Panel Fails?
10. The  Intensive Settlement Panel
11. Do Not Rush Through Your Divorce Settlement
12. "Why Won't The Other  Attorney Negotiate?"
13. Drafting A NJ Matrimonial Settlement Agreement
14. What "Mrs. Doubtfire" Can Teach Us All About Divorcing With Dignity
15. Is There Such A Thing As A "Good Divorce" In New Jersey?
16. "Can't We All Just Get Along?"
17. What Is An Uncontested Divorce in NJ?
18. New Uncontested Divorce Rule

SECTION #6: CUSTODY AND VISITATION ("PARENTING TIME")

1. What is Joint Custody in NJ?
2. Combatting Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) In Your NJ Divorce
3. The Court Should Be Open For Parenting Time Emergencies
4. How To Have Happier Children While Divorcing in NJ
5. Co-parenting After Your Divorce in NJ When Your Ex Won't
6. NJ Child Custody
7. Joint Custody In NJ Is Simply NOT Always Appropriate
8. Parental Substance Abuse in New Jersey
9. New Jersey's Psychological Parent Law
10. It's Harder For Your Ex To Move Your Kid From NJ
11. Don't Let Your NJ Divorce Screw Up Your Kids
12. Grandparent Visitation in New Jersey

SECTION #7: ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT

1. Calculating Alimony Pursuant to NJ Alimony Laws
2. Can Alimony Be Increased or Decreased?
3. My Most Painful Case Involving NJ Alimony Laws
4. If There Are No Easy NJ Alimony Laws, Why Do People Say There Are?
5. Obligations of a Disabled Person Pursuant To NJ Alimony Laws
6. Unreported Income in Divorce in New Jersey
7. What Can Be Done When A Supporting Spouse Acts Like A Jerk, Abandons His Family, And Leaves His Wife Penniless?
8. When Does NJ Divorce Law Require Life Insurance?
9. How and When Does "Cohabitation" End Alimony?

SECTION #8: EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS

1. Dividing Retirement Accounts
2. How Divorce in New Jersey is Like the Old "Cheeseburger! French Fries! Coke!" Skit from Saturday Night Live
3. Is My Spouse Entitled To A Part Of My Inheritance In A NJ Divorce?
4. Can I Remove Money From A Joint Account?

SECTION #9: ABOUT OUR COURTHOUSE AND OUR JUDGES

1. Tell The Truth in Divorce Court
2. 5 Ways To Prepare For Your Appearance in Family Court
3. How To Dress For Divorce Court
4. Seven Ways To Anger Your NJ Divorce Court Judge
5. NJ Family Court Judges Should Want To Be There
6. Tribute To a Wonderful  New Jersey Divorce Court Judge
7. OPINION: Divorce Court Judges Should Be Specialists
8. Even A Judge Who Gets Divorced in NJ Goes Through Hell

SECTION #10: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESTRAINING ORDERS

1. How to Obtain a Restraining Order
2. Trading Your NJ Temporary Restraining Order For Civil Restraints

SECTION #11: GETTING READY FOR TRIAL

1. What Is A NJ Divorce Trial Like?
2. Should Your NJ Divorce Attorney Take Depositions?
3. To Only Slightly Misquote Gov. Christie Before Hurricane Sandy, "Get The Hell Off Of Facebook!" During Your NJ Divorce
4. Maybe NJ Divorce Lawyers Need To Re-think Subpoenaing Text Messages
5. Can You Fire Your New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Close To Trial?

SECTION #12: STRESS OF DIVORCE

1. "No. We Cannot Drive Together!
   
2. Stressed Out About Your New Jersey Divorce?
3. The Holidays and Your NJ Divorce: January 2nd is Right Around the Corner!

SECTION #13: SEVEN FINAL THOUGHTS

1. Getting Help From a NJ Divorce Court Judge AFTER Your Divorce Has Ended
2. How An International Catastrophe Started My Career
   
3. Do NOT Sign Your Tax Returns Until Your NJ Divorce Lawyer Reviews Them
4. Sometimes Divorce Lawyers in NJ "Dump" a Case on an Associate
5. Why Are Some Divorces So Expensive and What To Do To Keep Your Costs Lower
6. Experiencing Betrayal Of Any Kind Is Awful
7. What Options Exist If You Want To Stop Your Divorce Case?