That’s what a man from Holmdel told me in our first meeting.
He was calm on the outside.
But inside?
Furious.
And worried.
“She’s spinning the story to everyone.”
“She’s threatening to ruin my reputation and take the kids.
“She’s acting like the victim while pushing every button she can.”
He wasn’t afraid of conflict.
He was afraid of being blindsided — by someone who twists the truth for sport.
If your spouse:
Plays the victim while provoking chaos behind closed doors
Turns your children into pawns
Accuses you of what he or she is actually doing
Pushes you to your edge — then tells the court you’re unstable
You're likely not imagining it.
Rather, you may be in a very real, very strategic fight.
Most people in your situation ask me:
– “How do I protect my kids from this insanity?”
– “How do I shield my business and assets from this irrationality?”
– “What happens if the judge believes my spouse's act?”
I’m Steve Kaplan, 
a NJ divorce lawyer with 37 years of experience.
And I’ve handled many high-conflict divorces where the other party's narcissism was off the charts — and where my client felt that he or she was the stable, strategic party who was being framed.
That’s part of the reason I created Divorce Smartert, a free, private, no-nonsense email series for people who need to out-think a manipulator.
Inside, you’ll learn:
How to structure your case to survive your spouse's lies
What judges in New Jersey actually respond to
How to protect your kids from alienation
How to document the facts like a pro
How to stay composed when your spouse is throwing emotional grenades at you
When you enter your email, you’ll receive:
Steve Kaplan’s NJ Divorce Guide
A 10-minute crash course that explains the NJ divorce process clearly, with no fluff.
A Daily Strategy Series Built for High-Stakes Divorce
Bite-sized email lessons on:
– Custody and parenting time
– Asset protection
– How to avoid courtroom traps
– How to respond (or not) when your spouse attacks
– Reputation management and long-game strategy
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And it’s built for people like you.
I’ve got your back.
– Steve
