That’s what a woman from Red Bank told me last week.
Her voice was steady,
but I could hear the exhaustion underneath.
She wasn’t physically injured — not yet.
But the verbal abuse, the threats, the stalking…
it wasn’t stopping.
“He’s not hitting me, but I’m scared.
And I don’t know if the court will take it seriously.”
In New Jersey, a Temporary Restraining Order (T.R.O.)
is available when you need immediate protection from:
🔹 Verbal or emotional abuse
🔹 Physical threats or violence
🔹 Harassment or stalking
🔹 Control or intimidation
It doesn’t matter if:
– You still live together
– He hasn’t laid a hand on you
– Everyone else thinks he’s “nice”
If you feel unsafe, the law is on your side.
👋 I’m Steve Kaplan, 
a divorce and domestic violence lawyer
right here in Monmouth County.
I’ve helped hundreds of people get restraining orders —
quickly, legally, and safely.
Many people who seek to obtain a restraining order against their spouse also are interested in learning about the possibilities that divorce offers.
That’s why I created
Steve Kaplan’s Divorce Course —
a free, private email series that walks you through all of the basics of getting a divorce. Also included is:
✅ Who qualifies for a T.R.O. in NJ
✅ What courts take seriously
✅ What to say (and what not to) when you apply
✅ What happens at the final hearing
✅ How to stay calm, focused, and protected
When you enter your email, you’ll receive:
✅ Steve Kaplan’s Guide to Divorce in NJ
Plain-English answers about how restraining orders and the divorce court's in general work
✅ The Full Divorce Strategy Email Series
Bite-sized daily emails that show you how to:
– Stay safe
– Document what’s happening
– Prepare for court
– Protect your kids
– Make calm, strategic decisions
No name needed. Just your email.
Unsubscribe anytime — but most people don’t.
Because this helps.
📩 Enter your email in the form on this page to get your first lesson now.
It’s free. It’s confidential.
And it could give you the safety — and clarity — you need.
I’ve got your back.
– Steve
