Divorcing a Narcissist When Children Are Involved
They lie. They manipulate. They charm the world—and make your life hell.
Hi, I’m Steve Kaplan, and for over 37 years I’ve helped clients right here in New Jersey break free from controlling, manipulative, narcissistic spouses.
If you're reading this, you already know how different this kind of divorce is.
You’re not just dealing with a difficult person.
You’re dealing with someone who rewrites reality, twists your words, uses your kids as leverage, and then acts like you’re the problem.
I’ve helped clients who felt like no one believed them.
I did believe them.
And I helped them take back their lives—step by step.
You can too.
Just because you can file for divorce right now doesn’t mean you should rush in.
When you’re divorcing a narcissist, every move matters.
Mistakes made early in the process—especially when dealing with someone who lies without shame—can cost you:
Time
Money
Custody
Emotional stability
You only get one chance to play this right.
So before you file…
Get smart. Get grounded. Get ready.
Narcissists often:
Track your spending
Block your access to funds
Micro-manage parenting
Weaponize the legal system
What Works:
Freeze joint accounts. Keep meticulous records. Retain a lawyer who understands high-conflict personalities.
They don’t care how you feel. Your pain is an inconvenience. Your needs are a threat.
What Works:
Set firm emotional boundaries. Prioritize strategy over emotion. Get support from people who actually care.
Gaslighting. Guilt-tripping. Playing the victim. Charming outsiders while destroying you inside your own home.
What Works:
Stick to facts. Limit direct contact. Keep communication short, calm, and documented.
They will blame you for their cheating. Their spending. Their rages. Their failures.
What Works:
Don’t defend. Don’t explain. Let the facts and your paper trail speak for you.
They expect special treatment. Lavish outcomes. They want to “win” at all costs.
What Works:
Don’t negotiate based on emotion. Use logic. Use law. Use leverage. Stay grounded in reality.
You might face screaming, sobbing, stonewalling, threats, and sudden love-bombing—all in the same week.
What Works:
Protect your mental health. Prioritize safety. Let your lawyer handle the chaos.
Divorcing a narcissist takes planning, precision, and nerves of steel.
You don't need to go it alone—and you shouldn’t.
That’s why I created Steve Kaplan’s Divorce Course, a free course designed specifically for New Jersey residents facing divorce.
How to shut down narcissistic manipulation
How to protect your kids and finances
How to avoid early legal traps
How to make smart decisions without getting emotionally baited
How to walk away with your power intact
It’s free, confidential, and written in plain English.
Use any email. No name required. No strings attached.
“I felt trapped and hopeless. Steve’s course gave me a roadmap—and hope.”
—K.D.
“My spouse twisted everything. Steve’s guidance was spot-on. I finally felt heard.”
—T.S.
“Every day felt like war. Steve helped me find peace—and protect my kids.”
—M.P.
Most people who find this page say the same thing:
“I wish I had seen this before I filed for divorce.”
Don’t let that be you.
It takes less than 10 seconds to start.
All we need is an email address. That’s it.
You’ll get immediate access to real help—no fluff, no pressure, no BS.
Enter an email address on the form on this page to immediately begin.
No one has to know. No one has to approve.
This is your moment to start getting control back.
Until next time,
—Steve
Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.
Specializing in Divorce Throughout New Jersey
5 Professional Circle, Colts Neck, NJ 07722
📞 (732) 845-9010