Hi, I’m Steve Kaplan — a divorce attorney based in Colts Neck, NJ, near Delicious Orchards.
For the past 37 years, I’ve represented thousands of men throughout Monmouth County, helping them protect their children, finances, and future.
If you’re thinking about divorce — or if your wife has already filed — you’re likely feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and unsure what to do next.
That’s normal.
But the steps you take right now can shape everything that follows.
Here are the first 5 divorce survival tips I give to men in your situation — based on decades of real courtroom experience in Freehold, where your case will be heard.
✅ 1. Understand Your Legal Exposure
In divorce, the law doesn’t favor men or women — but it can punish the unprepared.
If you don’t know your rights on alimony, custody, and asset division, you could get steamrolled.
The first move is to get informed — before you react.
✅ 2. Track and Protect Your Financials
Start documenting income, savings, investments, debts, and property values — right now.
This isn’t just good practice; it could prevent accusations or disputes later.
If you don’t have a clear picture of the finances, you won’t have a fair shot.
✅ 3. Don’t Go It Alone
Divorce can mess with your head.
Even the most level-headed men hit a wall. Surround yourself with support — whether it’s a friend, a therapist, or a men’s group.
Clear thinking = better outcomes.
Don’t let emotions make decisions for you.
✅ 4. If You’re a Father, Stay Focused
Courts want children to have both parents — but if you act rashly, you could hurt your custody rights.
Show up.
Stay consistent.
Never bad-mouth your spouse to the kids.
And don’t move out without legal advice — it could be a big mistake.
✅ 5. Don’t Assume You’re Headed to Court
Not every divorce needs to be a war.
Mediation and settlement can often lead to faster, cheaper, and more private outcomes — especially when both sides are willing to work toward solutions.
Litigation is sometimes necessary — but it’s not the default.
🎁 Want Real-World Help?
I’ve created a free divorce course for men that gives you over 100 no-nonsense tips — the kind of advice I’ve given to thousands of clients going through divorce here in Monmouth County.
It’s called Steve Kaplan’s Divorce Course, and it’s free.
You’ll start with a short, powerful guide called:
“Steve Kaplan’s Guide to Divorce in New Jersey”
It’s a quick read — under 10 minutes — and it will help you get your head in the game.
📩 Ready to Take Control?
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You can unsubscribe anytime — but most men don’t.
Because once they start reading, they realize this is the edge they needed.
Until next time,
Steve
Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.
Specializing in Divorce in Monmouth County
5 Professional Circle
Colts Neck, NJ 07722
(732) 845-9010
www.KaplanDivorce.com