Not every divorce lawyer understands what happens when your spouse lies convincingly, plays the victim, and turns conflict into a weapon.
I do.
If you’re dealing with a narcissistic spouse, experience matters.
“I wasn’t afraid of divorce. I was afraid of being set up.”
That’s how a recent client described his situation when he first came to see me.
His spouse was calm in public.
Provocative in private.
And already shaping the narrative.
He needed a lawyer who had seen this playbook before.
What divorcing a narcissist really involves
When a spouse shows narcissistic traits, divorce often includes:
• False narratives designed to sway the court
• Provocation followed by accusations
• Children used as leverage
• Endless conflict meant to exhaust you
• Attempts to damage your reputation or career
This is not a paperwork problem.
It’s a high-conflict litigation strategy problem.
I’m Steve Kaplan.
I’ve handled these cases for 37+ years.
I’m a New Jersey divorce lawyer with more than three decades of experience handling high-conflict divorces, many cases involving narcissistic spouses.
My clients are often the stable, reasonable party, yet they feel blindsided when manipulation replaces normal negotiation.
That’s why strategy, restraint, and documentation matter more than emotion.
Before you hire a lawyer, get educated
I created Steve Kaplan’s Divorce Course so people dealing with narcissistic spouses can understand the terrain before making costly mistakes.
The course is free, private, and built around real New Jersey divorce cases.
Inside the course, you’ll learn:
• How I structure cases involving narcissists
• What NJ judges actually respond to in high-conflict matters
• How custody narratives get manipulated, and how to counter the manipulations
• How to document your spouse's bad behavior so that it holds up in court
• When staying silent protects you more than arguing
• How to protect your credibility throughout the process
This is not therapy.
It’s legal strategy education.
What you receive
• A clear explanation of the NJ divorce process
• Short, focused emails on custody, assets, and litigation traps
• Guidance designed for people dealing with manipulative spouses
No name required.
Just your email.
Private. Confidential. Free.
Choose experience before emotion
If you’re searching for a New Jersey divorce lawyer experienced with narcissistic spouses, I can help you.
You can start by learning how these cases tend to actually unfold by entering your email below to get your first lesson immediately, or you can call my assistant, Valerie, at (732) 845-9010 if you're ready to get started.
Or you can do both.
Until next time,
Steve
Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.
Specializing in Divorce
Throughout New Jersey
5 Professional Circle
Colts Neck, New Jersey
(732) 845-9010
www.KaplanDivorce.com
