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How Long Will It Take You to Get Divorced?


At initial office conferences, potential new clients often ask me, “How long will it take me to get divorced?"

That question is similar in its answer to the questions:

  • "How much does a new car cost?"
  • "How much does a new house cost?," and
  • "How tall is a man?”

in that different cars and houses cost different amounts, and people are of varying heights.

Similarly, some divorces are able to resolve in a relatively short period time, like three months.

Many can be resolved in 6 to 8 months.

Other divorces take up to a year (and sometimes more.)

The Supreme Court of New Jersey has set a goal of having every divorce case in the state resolved in no more than 12 months from the day that the divorce complaint is filed in the office of the County Clerk.

Think about the last time you were on a line at your favorite car wash on a bright, sunny afternoon in April.

It's 72°. Your car is filthy.

But...so is everybody else's...

So the line  for the carwash stretches out to the highway, and it then bends and continues down the highway.

But you wait in it anyway because your car is so dirty that you feel that you have no choice.

As the line moves closer and closer to the entrance to the car wash structure, your car is not getting any cleaner.

It is only when your car is the next one in line, and that hook on the conveyor belt comes around and grabs the chassis of your car, thus beginning to pull your car on it's journey actually into the car wash structure itself, that your car starts to get a little cleaner.

In a New Jersey divorce case, the ”hook on the conveyor belt" analogy from the car wash is the day that your divorce papers are received by the clerk in the basement of the courthouse, and the clerk picks up a little rubber stamp and stamps it “received" with the date that the papers were received.

That's the hook. That's when your case starts getting pulled through the "car wash" analogy that we call the New Jersey Family Court.

That is often when the process of beginning to resolve your divorce case really starts.

Looked at slightly differently, it goes like this:

You want an amicable divorce, right?

Of course you do. Everyone who is seeking a divorce does. I've met with thousands and thousands of people over 30 years, and almost every one of them has told me that they came to my office because they realized that they needed a divorce, but that they don't want it to drag on or be nasty.

Well, the way to get the clock started on the one-year maximum that the New Jersey Court says is supposed to exist for all divorce cases is to get your divorce complaint filed with the County Clerk. That starts the clock ticking on the one year time period. That is the analogy to the hook grabbing the chassis of your car in the car wash.

What I mean is that your case will not process through the system until your divorce complaint has been stamped "received", just like your car will not get any cleaner until the hook at the car wash grabs your car's chassis and starts pulling it through the car wash structure.

There are times, though, when you don't want to rush off and file for divorce right away. Sometimes it is better to negotiate first.  Sometimes one last shot at marriage counseling is in order.

What I am saying, though, is that you have to always balance the time that you are spending trying to settle your case without filing for divorce against the reality that your divorce could actually be delayed by not filing if, in fact, your settlement efforts do not produce an actual settlement.



The length of time that a divorce will take in Monmouth County, New Jersey is a function of many variables, as discussed above.

If things are straight-forward, divorce could happen quickly.

If things are more complex or one or more of the participants are inherently difficult, it will take longer...sometimes, much longer.



If you are considering separating or filing for divorce, the most important thing for you to do before doing anything else is to learn how to protect yourself, your children, and your assets.

undefinedI'll show you how you can do it.

I've been a divorce specialist in Colts Neck (by Delicious Orchards) for 36 years, and I've successfully represented many people against narcissistic spouses.

I "get it" and I'm here to help.

My free NJ DIVORCE EDGE 2024 (click here) course will teach you how to turn your situation around to your advantage.

Every divorce case is different. My emails will teach you, in an easy to understand way, everything that you need to know to help you make the right decisions based upon the particular facts of your situation.

I get emails from strangers all the time thanking me for making this information available to them online at no cost, and I'm pretty certain that you, too, will get a lot of value from my emails.

And if you want to stop the emails, I made it really easy for you to do that... one click on any email stops the course. But few people do that...because the material is really helpful to anyone who is even just beginning to think about getting a divorce here in Monmouth County.


Are you ready to start turning things around?

The next move is up to you...!

Click the link above and begin learning how to get the "edge" in YOUR Monmouth County divorce case.

Until next time,

Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.

Specializing In Divorce
Throughout New Jersey

5 Professional Circle
Colts Neck, NJ. 07722

(732) 845-9010

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Topics: Divorce, Divorce Court