Welcome To My  New Jersey Divorce Course.

This Is Where Things Start To Get Better.

by Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.

Welcome to my NJ Divorce Course (the course itself begins about half-way down this page.)

I designed this course specifically to help people who are considering getting a divorce in New Jersey understand the NJ divorce process, and to learn their options.

This knowledge helps a divorce client "partner" with his or her divorce lawyer to help them work together to achieve the best results possible for the client.

This Divorce Course is where the anxiety that divorce often causes will start to lose its grip on you.

The divorce knowledge that you will get here will empower you to ask the right questions of prospective divorce lawyers.

It will lessen your anxiety.

It will make going through the confusing divorce process much, much more understandable.


Intro to divorce course

My articles will give you knowledge to help you get through your divorce intact, with the best divorce settlement possible, ready to start a new and better life.

Read my articles in whatever order makes sense to you. 

But I do recommend that you start with my "Introduction to The Monmouth County Divorce Process", whether you live in Monmouth County or elsewhere. It is a great overview of everything that you will need to know regardless of where you will be divorcing.

Over the past 32 years, I have learned what I call "pure divorce law" (ie, the law as dealt with in Divorce Court) as a result of practicing ONLY divorce law. 95% of my cases have been in Monmouth County.

During those same 32 years, I also learned the way that divorce in Monmouth County really works, through my experiences as a step-father and second husband to a previously divorced woman.

Significantly, I've learned that the way that divorce is SUPPOSED to work is not always the same as the way that divorce ACTUALLY WORKS in the real world.

Take a look HERE to see how these two inconsistent experiences helped me understand what you are going through, and the best ways to help you conquer these challenges.

Also, take a look at my website's home page HERE and see if you can relate to the story told there. 

This divorce course is NOT designed to be a course to teach you how to divorce yourself. You should still have a very good lawyer guiding you.

Unfortunately people who represent themselves in anything other than the least complex divorces often make very big mistakes that are not correctable later. (Read "Why It's A Terrible Idea To Divorce Without A Very Good Lawyer HERE.)

This course is about educating you so that you can partner-up with a great divorce lawyer and not make those mistakes.

Together, the goal of you and your attorney should be to successfully tackle some tough issues so that you end up with the best results possible for your situation.

Having said that, let's start getting your divorce-related anxiety resolved by getting your questions answered through my NJ Divorce Course.


PS:  When you are ready to move forward, feel free to contact me for your "Divorce Strategy Session" so that I can give you specific advice, custom-made to your specific situation.



      Steven J. Kaplan, Esq.



  1. "I'll Go For Your Jugular!" (hint: she didn't)
  2. Introduction To The Monmouth County Divorce Process
  3. How Long Will It Take You to Get Divorced?
  4. 10 Good First Questions To Ask A Divorce Attorney
  5. 5 Qualities You Should Seek In Your  Divorce Lawyer
  6. Your Divorce Attorney Should Help You Define Your Goals
  7. Why It's A Terrible Idea To Divorce Without A Very Good Lawyer
  8. Legal Separation in New Jersey


  1. Your New Jersey Divorce & Therapy: Perfect Together
  2. My Take on Jerry Seinfeld's Description of How People Break Up, and Marriage Counseling
  3. Counseling Can Benefit Senior Citizens Involved in the Divorce Process



  1. What About Separation in NJ Without Divorce?
  2. NJ Grounds for Divorce
  3. Why The NJ Grounds for Divorce Don't Really Matter
  4. What It Means To Serve Divorce Papers in NJ



  1. What Does "Pendente Lite" Mean in Monmouth County Divorce Court?
  2. NJ Divorce Court Motions
  3. Can Your Monmouth County Divorce Lawyer Help You In An Emergency?



  1. Don't Divorce Like This
  2. Going Through A Monmouth County NJ Divorce?
  3. The Importance Of Your NJ Divorce Case Information Statement (CIS)
  4. Your Divorce Case Information Statement: The Backbone of Your Case
  5. Four Way Conferences for Attempting To Settle Issues
  6. Divorce Mediation and Arbitration in Monmouth County
  7. The Early Settlement Panel
  8. What If Your Early Settlement Panel in Monmouth County Fails?
  9. The Monmouth County Intensive Settlement Panel
  10. Do Not Rush Through Your Divorce Settlement
  11. "Why Won't The Other  Attorney Negotiate?"
  12. Drafting A NJ Matrimonial Settlement Agreement
  13. What "Mrs. Doubtfire" Can Teach Us All About Divorcing With Dignity
  14. Is There Such A Thing As A "Good Divorce" In Monmouth County?
  15. "Can't We All Just Get Along?"
  16. What Is An Uncontested Divorce in NJ?



  1. What is Joint Custody in NJ?
  2. Combatting Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) In Your NJ Divorce
  3. The Court Should Be Open For Parenting Time Emergencies
  4. How To Have Happier Children While Divorcing in Monmouth County NJ
  5. Co-parenting After Your Divorce in NJ When Your Ex Won't
  6. NJ Child Custody
  7. Joint Custody In NJ Is Simply NOT Always Appropriate
  8. Parental Substance Abuse in Monmouth County
  9. New Jersey's Psychological Parent Law
  10. It's Harder For Your Ex To Move Your Kid From NJ
  11. Don't Let Your NJ Divorce Screw Up Your Kids



  1. Calculating Alimony Pursuant to NJ Alimony Laws
  2. My Most Painful Case Involving NJ Alimony Laws
  3. If There Are No Easy NJ Alimony Laws, Why Do People Say There Are?
  4. Obligations of a Disabled Person Pursuant To NJ Alimony Laws
  5. Unreported Income in Divorce in New Jersey
  6. What Can Be Done When A Supporting Spouse Acts Like A Jerk, Abandons His Family, And Leaves His Wife Penniless?
  7. Breaking News: New Jersey Bill Giving Judges More Discretion in Child Support Cases Moves Forward in New Jersey Senate
  8. When Does NJ Divorce Law Require Life Insurance?
  9. How and When Does "Cohabitation" End Alimony?



  1. How Divorce in New Jersey is Like the Old "Cheeseburger! French Fries! Coke!" Skit from Saturday Night Live
  2. Is My Spouse Entitled To A Part Of My Inheritance In A NJ Divorce?
  3. Can I Remove Money From A Joint Account?



  1. Tell The Truth in Divorce Court
  2. 5 Ways To Prepare For Your Appearance in Family Court
  3. How To Dress For Divorce Court
  4. It's All On Video At The County Courthouse
  5. Monmouth County Courthouse Facilities
  6. Seven Ways To Anger Your NJ Divorce Court Judge
  7. NJ Family Court Judges Should Want To Be There
  8. Tribute To a Wonderful Monmouth County Divorce Court Judge
  9. OPINION: Divorce Court Judges Should Be Specialists
  10. Even A Judge Who Gets Divorced in NJ Goes Through Hell



  1. How to Obtain a Restraining Order in Monmouth County
  2. Trading Your NJ Temporary Restraining Order For Civil Restraints
  3. Changes are Coming to NJ's Domestic Violence Restraining Order Laws
  4. Should New Jersey Prohibit People From Following Others With A GPS?



  1. What Is A NJ Divorce Trial Like?
  2. Should Your Monmouth County Divorce Attorney Take Depositions?
  3. To Only Slightly Misquote Gov. Christie Before Hurricane Sandy, "Get The Hell Off Of Facebook!" During Your NJ Divorce
  4. Maybe NJ Divorce Lawyers Need To Re-think Subpoenaing Text Messages
  5. Can You Fire Your New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Close To Trial?



  1. "No. We Cannot Drive Together!
  2. Stressed Out About Your New Jersey Divorce?
  3. The Holidays and Your Monmouth County, NJ Divorce: January 2nd is Right Around the Corner!



  1. Getting Help From a NJ Divorce Court Judge AFTER Your Divorce Has Ended
  2. How An International Catastrophe Started My Career
  3. Do NOT Sign Your Tax Returns Until Your NJ Divorce Lawyer Reviews Them
  4. Sometimes Divorce Lawyers in NJ "Dump" a Case on an Associate
  5. Why Are Some Divorces So Expensive and What To Do To Keep Your Costs Lower
  6. Experiencing Betrayal Of Any Kind Is Awful


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